You'll Get Over It

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Rollercoaster emotions of bereavement - Rated
This book has helped me through the shock and emotions I have experienced following 2 sudden deaths of very close people this year. Virginia doesn't address the sudden death aspect very much, but her straight talking approach cuts through other books on bereavement. By dipping into her book - after you have read it cover to cover - offers some comfort when feeling down as the chapters cover most of the emotions felt when a loved (or not) one dies. She does not assume that the person who has died was a dearly beloved and that alone makes it all the more readable! It is a true & honest friend and can be relied upon to guide you through whatever you feel at that moment.

The best book on this subject to date. - Rated
Profoundly helpful at a complex and dreadful time.

The best book I've read so far on bereavement - Rated
Not an easy read! Don't be put off by Virginia Ironside's somewhat aggressive manner at times, there are a lot of gems to be found in this book. If you are grieving for a husband/wife/parnter/parent or child then this is the book for you. Virginia Ironside takes grief by it's ankles and shakes it hard until all the "loose change" - the negative thoughts, the guilty thoughts, the "hidden" depths of grief - spill out onto the ground. She then examines each aspect in the cold light of day. Not a sentimental or slushy book, and not one that adheres to the old adage "you'll get over it!"

An honest and comforting story about grief. - Rated
A truely excellent account of grief,quite frank and beautifully honest,which I personally found refreshing and needed.
The title 'You'll get over it'sums the book up.Will you ever get over someone you truely loved so much?People think they are being a comfort whilst saying this,Virginia picks up well on this and uses appropriate sarcasm.
I lost my dad at the begginig of the year(2002).
This book has guided me through all the emotions I have been feeling,almost mirroring my own thoughts and feelings.
I feel this is a definate for the bereaved as it makes you realise that what you feel isn't 'mad' or 'foolish' it is grief.
Thankyou Virginia.

Excellant, well written and sensitive book. - Rated
I came to this book as a result of the death of my Father to find that the author had felt compelled to write the book after the death of her own Father. When first skimming through the pages looking for any kind of answer to the confusion going on in my mind, I found, at first, the book to be too angry and raw. However after the initial shock of my Father's death wore off I was surprised to find how the overwelming emotion I felt was white hot rage and suddenly the book made sense. However Virginia Ironside's book is not just about rage but about the many different and confusing emotions bereaved people feel.

The book is particularly well written, with each chapter looking at a new aspect of grief. She pours scorn on the usual sentimental approach to bereavement and the platitudes which are meant to make us feel better and instead looks for some honesty - painful as it may be.

Despite being a very angry and brutally honest account the book is ultimately caring and hopeful and it helped me more than anything else I have read. At present it is on my bedside table and I keep reading bits at night when I wake up, sleepless and bewildered.

I would recommend this to anybody who has suffered a bereavement and would advise that you are not put off by the book's brutal honesty.