Flawed Fantasies - Rated 
If both The Observer and the Evening Standard can be on the jacket of a book praising it, then watch out. Although it is described as "the new Kinsey", (I have not read the original Kinsey), if this is what Kinsey is like, then Kinsey was over-rated. Nevertheless, the book is interesting and informative. The author's virtue is that he attempts to be non-judgemental and acknowledges, just before it is too late, the shortcomings and weaknesses of the methodology adopted.
I was annoyed by the first part of the book, when describing the methodology and antecedents it was far too story like and not enough straight reportage. There were too many adjectives about "courageous" Kinsey and "brave" Nancy Friday. Really, these researchers from decades ago were just doing a job they got paid for. Bravery and courage had nothing to do with it. The overuse of adjectives aside, the text is readable.
The meat of the book, which is the fantasies and their interpretation, is best left to the reader, as it is too fascinating, fabulous and occasionally humorous. That people have fantasies, I have no doubt. What I do find a weakness in method, is the type of people who divulge fantasies freely may be already of a certain disposition or wanting to make a certain pre-conceived point. I know that Kahr has tried to counter this as best he can through YouGov, but throughout my reading there was always a doubt nagging me about the good faith of some contributors. I think only more surveys will actually prove or disprove the results. My second problem with the contents is the Freudian emphasis on the origins of fantasy being the result of trauma - that is trauma defines what our fantasies will be like. I find the weakness here is that people's fantasies change over time. What you fantasize one day will be different the next. Kahr fails to address the challenge of variety of fantasies in a satisfactory way.
I would recommend this book for a good and revealing read, and for the start it has made towards a fuller understanding of the subject, but it is certainly not the last word on the subject, as the cover implies.
Incredible - Rated 
I've done nine years of psychotherapy, so I'm primed to comprehend the material in this book. In fact, it's been something of a watershed for me; a lot of stuff has suddenly come together, been connected, makes sense.
I suspect people without experience of psychotherapy will find the Freudian concepts here a lot to swallow at first glance!
The book is just amazing - I literally couldn't put it down. I mean, I don't put books down anyway, but this book I *extra* couldn't put down. I should have been working, but I was reading, because I had to.
I learned why I fantasize about what I fantasize about - I saw exactly where those thoughts came from. I now understand; and I got that from this book.
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