Will it really help you? - Rated 
Unfortunately for me it was too late when the book did arrive as my girlfriend called off the relationship. Much as my now ex thought it was absurd that a book was going to cure everything I found some good constructive advice and our own failings which was that we never argued properly instead tip toeing around each other. The book did reflect a lot that had gone on with us, and i feel both men and women will find something to aid them in their relationship. I particularly enjoyed it as it was written from a british perspective and was more grounded in reality rather than the 'alternative reality' we often see from across the pond. If your relationship is rock bottom try this book for a new angle, it is not a magic bullet just explains that 'smart' thinking may find you a path back to love again. I only wish we were together to tell you if the advice would of worked in practice...
Why didn't I find this earlier - Rated 
This is a great book, almost every strategy in it makes perfect sense, whilst it seems to blame most relationship problems on childhood events; it accurately explains the science of what happens at every stage of a relationship.
If your partner and you are still hanging on and working for a chance this book will almost certainly work for you, and even if it failed, you would end up not with a bitter estranged ex, but a life long friend.
My regret is that I never found this book three years ago at a time when I know Mr Marshall's advice would certainly have worked for me.
Argh! Why did no one ever tell me this before! - Rated
I think the government and World Health Organisation should make this book mandatory reading for anyone and everyone before they are allowed to enter into a relationship, to prevent the unenlightened from knacking their relationships without even realising what they're doing. This is like a long lost essential instruction manual, when you read it, you think "Hells teeth! Why couldn't I have read this before I did that!". This book gives great insight into the different stages of relationships, what's normal when, and I SO wish I'd read this book ten years ago! No matter what state your relationship's in, from rainbows and butterflies to copious amounts of wailing, chocolate and alcohol, I'd imagine most folk would benefit from reading this book, and if the worst has happened, it will help you to come to terms with the situation, and possibly promote self awareness, which can only be for the good. BUY IT IMMEDIATELY AND SAVE YOURSELF MANY YEARS OF ANGUISH! Insist that all your children read it, and don't let them start dating unless they have.
I love you but I'm not in love with you - Rated
Essential reading for anyone in a longterm relationship happy or otherwise. An enjoyable, accessible read. Anyone who truly loves their partner should buy this book.
A book that rings true - Rated
I was immensely impressed by this book by Andrew Marshall. He is a therapist and clearly has deep insight into real relationships where intimacy has been lost. This common situation, with which many couples and individuals will be able to identify, is explored and discussed with great intuition. However, he goes beyond simply understanding it, and produces ways to improve or extract oneself from these emotional doldrumes. The need to recognise when to withdraw rather than to atttempt to breathe life into a dead relationship, is a refreshing and valuable addition to the literature on human relations.
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