Very helpful but can put off non-Christians - Rated 
I personally was given this book by my wife to read and I wish I had read it 10 years ago. The author is very right when he says that the "in-love" feeling that we first experience when we meet someone can disappear in the first 2 years of marriage. Once the "in-love" emotion disappears we wonder why we loved that person to begin with. Thus begins the excuses we generate to separate or divorce.
In this book, the author shows that love is not a feeling, but it is a decision. The decision that everyone needs to make to speak the love language of the person we love. That love language could be words of affection and encouragement, doing household chores, touching, giving gifts or spending quality time together.
While the book is great and very helpful, it may not appeal to non-Christians because the author insists by drawing examples from the Bible and Jesus' own life. While this is okay, and I am not anti-religion, I do believe the biblical references are unnecessary and may turn off secular readers. This is a pity as the book's main theory that we speak five separate love languages is very plausible and should be given respect.
Love is a choice. - Rated 
From a rich reduction of over twenty years as a marriage counselor, Gary Chapman shares ways that communication, either in speaking or behaviors, support or dissolve healthy marriages. One form of communication or "language" that Gary Chapman presents is called "Quality Time". Becoming aware of my need for this "quality time" helped me to rediscover passion and love for my husband of eight years. We both lead busy lives with many hobbies and interests; coming together at the end of the day and sharing has brought us closer. In giving one another our total attention our relationship and our individual sense of self worth has deepened to new levels.
In reading The Five Love Languages I was reminded of another incredible relationship book written by Ariel and Shya Kane called "How to Create a Magical Relationship". The Kanes' approach focuses on awareness and an ability to truly listen to one's partner. It too enriched my ability to spend "quality time" with the many people who matter. If you are looking for a richer deeper level in all your relationships, I highly recommend either of these insightful books.
A fresh approach - Rated
This book is excellent in every respect. It is for indiviuals and/or couples, is very easy to read, not preachy, full of practical ideas and exercises (rather than endless theory)and most importantly full of HOPE for a more fulfilling life. It provides insights that can help those who just want to improve the good marriages they already have. But it can really help those struggling with a troubled marriage, whether as a result of infidelity, those wondering why they don't love their partner they way they used to or just the the ups and downs of marriage. Importantly, the author gives ideas that can be practiced whether or not your partner wants to participate in the improvment process. Strongly recommended.
Excellent - Rated
This book is recommeded by the Marriage Course ( a course to help strengthen relationships). its easy to get bogged down in life and forget your partner. it helps you understand how you and they feel loved, something which we need to get right. people feel loved in different ways and not necessarily the way that you yourself feels love.
I reccommend this along with doing The Marriage Course (a course that is available throughout the country) It consists of 7 nights with a meal, a dvd talk and a workbook. its like an 7 week long date and helps to reignite communication and dealing with life together and face conflicts. Do a google to find your local one!
One to keep! - Rated
This book helps you to see from another person's perspective and then more effectively demonstrate that you value them. Giving flowers and chocolates are good romantic gestures for some people - but others would really value a good conversation more - or could you wash up and empty the bins more often?
Touch, (including hugging children or sex with your partner,) is one of the categories, as are "words of affirmation" or compliments.
The premise of the book is marriage but it can help in other types of interpersonal relationships at home or work.
I wish I could get my husband to read it! We did talk it through though. Unfortunately, because it has the word "love" in the title, he felt it necessary to hide it away as if it were pornographic. You don't need to! This is suitable for all the family.
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